Les grands-parents peuvent jouer un rôle important et positif dans la vie de leurs petits-enfants. En particulier pendant la séparation des parents, ils peuvent offrir aux enfants un lieu sûr et stable où ils peuvent parler du divorce et gérer tous les changements.

Choisir son camp

Cependant, un divorce peut également avoir un impact important sur les contacts entre les grands-parents et les petits-enfants. Les relations avec le gendre ou la fille peuvent changer. Certainement si le divorce s'est déroulé avec beaucoup d'émotions et de reproches et que les parents s'attendent à ce que les grands-parents prennent parti.

Résidence principale

When the children have their primary residence with the son-in-law or daughter-in-law and have little contact with the other parent, it becomes more difficult for the grandparents to maintain good and regular contact. A new partner of the son-in-law or daughter-in-law may also play a role in this. Or a move to another place of residence.

However, grandparents can also play a positive role there. If one of the parents temporarily does not have good contact arrangements with the children, the grandparents can help. Perhaps the parent in question has not yet found a new, child-friendly living space and the children cannot yet stay overnight? Or perhaps the parent in question is temporarily unstable and is not yet entrusted with the care for the children by the other parent and / or the court? In such situations, grandparents can help and also encourage contact between the grandchildren and the parent concerned.

Coparentalité

Parfois, les parents ne veulent pas se voir en face à face pendant un certain temps, par exemple après des violences domestiques (présumées) et le transfert des enfants peut être désagréable. Dans ce cas, les grands-parents peuvent effectuer le transfert. And of course, even after a divorce for the parents, it is sometimes hard work to combine work with (shared) care for the children. Then it is nice for the children if a familiar face comes in.

Because of the positive role that grandparents have in the grandchildren’s life, it is common in the Netherlands for the parenting plan to include how the contact between the children and other family members, including the grandparents, is maintained after separation and also after the death of one of the parents. Usually, being helpfull is the easiest and most practical way to maintain a relationship with the grandchildren.

Procédure judiciaire

Mais que doivent faire les grands-parents s'ils ne peuvent pas avoir (suffisamment) de contacts avec leurs enfants ? Il n'existe pas de droit légal de visite des petits-enfants. Les grands-parents peuvent saisir le tribunal pour demander un accord de visite avec les petits-enfants, mais le simple fait qu'ils soient grands-parents ne suffit pas pour obtenir un tel accord.

Une relation personnelle étroite

The grandparents must demonstrate that they are in “close personal relationship” with the grandchild. They must demonstrate that there was structural and regular contact before the divorce. Of course it helps if the grandparents had a regular babysitting day, or if there were very frequent sleepovers. The court only grants the request of the grandparents if he considers this to be in the best interest of the children.

Sometimes the relationship between the parent and the grandparent has become so difficult that imposing a visitation arrangement becomes a burden on the family. With grandparents, too, it may be worth trying mediation. This can be tried before starting a procedure. It is also possible that a procedure is put on hold to try mediation.

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